Old, Hot, & Spicy

Okay, in case it was not obvious, I have a thing for older guys.

I just do.

Actors, profs, my friend’s dads, my dad’s friends. I can’t help it.

Now don’t get me wrong – I don’t strictly date older men (well, I should say I haven’t strictly dated older men because technically, I’m not dating right now because I’ve got Meri Jaan) or only have a thing for them. Nor is it true that I fall for every older man. In any age group, there are the hotties and notties. There are the ones you wanna get naughty with and the ones you wanna say ‘sorry, next’ to. The only way I differ from most is I shamelessly admit when I do have a thing for an older guy. Or sometimes, even just plain old guys.

So here’s a list of my top ten favorite old, hot, and spicy actors from youngest to oldest.

Note 1: For the sake of this venture, I am strictly considering candidates who are 50+ years old.

Note 2: NONE of the following images of the mentioned actors belong to me and I do NOT intend any copyright infringement upon said images. Links to the source sites of the images (the sites that Google pulled the images from) are hyperlinked to the actor names.
(Now, I feel it is also important to note as I have similarly noted for one of my previous MML post “Bad to the Bone, Easy on the Eyes” that just because I used these specific images does not mean I had any clue what was on the original sites that I pulled them from. Using these specific images does not reflect my opinions about the original sites or their content. It is not a promotion of the original sites. You can and should form your opinions about them.)

	Actor Name, Age, and Photo & My Rant	Favorite Role, and the Movie/TV Show it belongs to
1	Nathan Fillion, 51 I first saw Nathan Fillion as Castle and later as John Nolan in The Rookie. In both, he has that ruggedly handsome vibe and a knack for doing slightly dumb things. Though I have to say, I love Castle a lot more than Nolan because, well, he’s more fun. From a writerly perspective I appreciate both characters, they’re both well written and relatable, but as a person and a woman I love Castle because he’s witty, creative, and a bad boy with good ambitions that also manages to freak out when his daughter’s in the company of the wrong guys. I also appreciate the actor off of the screen for his and author Philip-Jon “PJ” Haarsma’s founding of Kids Need to Read, an organization that helps to get more books to underfunded libraries. I have a soft spot for men who have soft spot for kids. And for books.	Richard Castle, Castle
2	Oded Fehr, 52 The first time I saw Fehr on screen was while watching Once Upon A Time, except I had no idea who he was. Much earlier than his role as Jafar, he played Ilan Bodnar on NCIS, another one of my favorite shows and once that I started watching more recently. He also played Zankou on the first version of Charmed which I watched long before I started OUAT. I had no idea it was all the same guy. I was Googling stuff for this post and that’s when I realized it. I have to say, I’m not much for Bodnar, but god were Jafar and Zankou getting me going. They’re all villains, so what’s the difference, you ask? Um, the beard, duh! Men look so different and so much hotter with than without a beard (or at the very least stubble) – well, most do. I also love this man’s smile. I was originally going to pick a normal photo of him, out of character, but then I saw this photo with that smile and it made my heart melt a little. Even if he’s suppose to be portraying a lunatic villain. I also think his voice is immensely sexy.	Jafar, Once Upon a Time
3	R. Madhavan, 52 The first time I saw Madhavan (which his is his first name) on screen, it was when I saw him as Farhan Qureshi in 3 Idiots (which was one of the few Bollywood films I watched before becoming obsessed with Bollywood on my dad’s recommendation). If you have not watched that movie, watch it! It’s a Bollywood classic. It’s both super sad and emotional but super happy and funny. Totally worth it. Don’t care if you understand Hindi or not. I don’t understand Hindi either, it’s fine. Watch it with the original audio and subtitles. While Amir Khan with his role as Phunsukh Wangdu and the fake Ranchhoddas “Rancho” Shyamaldas Chanchad takes the reins as the main character, the other key characters in this movie all uphold their own acting value. The main cast other than Amir Khan and Madhavan includes Sharman Joshi (as Raju Rastogi), Boman Irani (as Dr. Viru “Virus” Sahastrabuddhe ), Omi Vaidya (as Chatur “Silencer” Ramalingam) and Kareena Kapoor (as Pia Sahastrabuddhe). Madhavan and all the others did absolutely fantastic in playing their roles. However, Amir Khan was the one that stood out the most. He’s the name that stuck. Years later, in a Telugu movie, I saw this super sexy guy playing the villain. And it took me a whole second but I realized with a “holy crap, it’s him” that it was R. Madhavan who was playing Arun Raj Varma in Savyasachi. I didn’t even know he acted in Tollywood. With a little Wikipedia research, I learned that he did a cameo in an earlier Telugu film (Om Shanti) but Savyasachi is the first time he played a main role on the Tollywood screen. He mainly does Tamil and Hindi films but does a little work in Malayalam and Kannada along with Telugu. After Savyasachi, I valued Madhavan even more as an actor. How did he go from his role as Quereshi (who’s a nice guy and rather subdued by his best friend) to his role as Varma (a scorned intellectual on the quest for revenge)? Plus, oh my lord, I remember thinking “eh, he’s okay, a little cute” when I first saw him in 3 Idiots (and yeah, it was cause he had no facial hair), and then ooh la la, I remember thinking “yes, please” when I saw him in Savyasachi (and yeah, it’s cause he had facial hair). And while I loved his acting in both 3 Idiots and Savyasachi and the few other movies featuring him that I watched, I especially love him for Maara. Maara is a 2021 Tamil film. It has a Telugu dubbed version which I started watching, but the dubbing was a little off and it was bothering me so I switched to the Tamil version with subtitles. (I don’t like it when lips move in one way but the words coming out don’t match). The movie itself is beautiful and he outdid himself in his role as the title character. I also find it interesting that he balances main character roles with supporting character roles and protagonist roles with antagonist roles. I know for a fact that apart from doing a very important cameo once in a while, there are some Indian actors who after reaching the top ranks take it as an offense to play anything less than the main protagonist character. No experimentation allowed. Even if there is clearly another character in a specific movie that’s more important, that top-ranking actor’s role will be listed as the main protagonist. I find this entirely annoying. I could do an entire post about it some time.	Maara, Maara
4	Shah Rukh Khan, 56 Shah Rukh Khan or SRK as he’s popularly known or Shah Rukh as I like to call him is one of Bollywood’s top actors. He is my second favorite Bollywood actor. (Mr. Kapoor, you’ll always be my first). This one, I actually don’t know much about outside the screen. Occasionally, I’ve heard some say they seem to think he’s an anti-Hindu Muslim. Which, personally, I think makes no sense because he married a Hindu. But that’s like saying, well, someone’s not misogynistic just because they married a woman or another someone’s not misandristic just because they married a man. I have no proof to say either-or. I haven’t done the research. I haven’t had a reason to. I don’t care. If he isn’t racist, good on him. If he is racist, that might make him an awful person but I’m not gonna stop watching his movies. Here’s a very important lesson that I am about to school a majority of people with: Just because you like someone for their talent does not mean you like them or that you have to like their overall personality. Vice versa also applies. Someone can be the biggest jackass in the world but still be really good at their job. And good at looking good. I think Shah Rukh is goddamn sexy (especially with the facial hair though he looks good without it too). And he’s an immensely incredible actor. He just is. He’s one of the best actors the world has seen. At least, I think so. (All the actors on this list are amazing actors in my opinion otherwise they would not be on the list.) But I have no clue what he’s like in real life. I’m not even going to offer an opinion on that. Because it does not matter because I don’t actually know him real life. I love Shah Rukh as an actor as a physical being who I think is fuckable as fuck. Don’t know enough to form an opinion of him as a person. Don’t care.	Dev Saran, Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna
5	Jagapathi, 60 There are a million reasons why I am in love with this man and there is not enough time or space to express it. You can scroll through some of my previous posts to dive into the depths of my obsession: 1) Obsession 2) He’s Older? So What? 3) This Is Not Why I Am Me 4) Friend + Romance = My Future Lover 5) Inescapable “Obsession” and “Inescapable” very much feature him as the main subject. The other three touch upon different aspects of my admiration of him. If you don’t already know, he is the basis for Raj, my imaginary best friend / boyfriend / sometimes husband / whatever else I need him to be when I need him. He’s basically my subconscious. I know he’s not real-real. I don’t care. He’s my reality. In any case, I’m sure there will be many, many, many more stories I write of both Jagapathi and Raj in the future. So, stay posted.	Krishna “K.K.”, Swagatham
6	Tom Cruise, 60 He’s crazy. That’s what an acquaintance of mine said a while ago. I don’t disagree. I think he is crazy. (And that’s not a bad thing). I mean, the fact that he’s willing to risk his life for his craft? A daredevil. An adventurist. And it’s sexy as fuck. Now, in real life, I would be terrified to be with a guy like that because I would constantly be anxious about what might happen to him and if he’d return to me safely every time he stepped out of the house. But, I appreciate him on a human level for his bravery. And someone’s gonna say: “Please, he’s just a martyr. What’s he actually risking his life for?” What does anyone risk their life for? For something they believe in. It’s incredible that he values this highly the integrity of the stories and characters presented on the screen, giving his audience a thrill that’s based on authenticity. But also, for what it’s worth, the people making these movies take extreme care (or as much as they possibly can) to make sure he actually survives his stunts. Also, he’s super hot (with and without facial hair, can you imagine that), I love that he can ride a motorcycle, I love his last name, and he’s an overall great actor. I especially love the humor he’s able to convey during high-stakes stunts. Talented man. Crazy man, but talented and passionate man.	Ethan Hunt, Mission: Impossible – Ghost Protocol
7	Daggubati Venkatesh, 61 First thing first, Venkatesh is his first name. Daggubati is his last name. It’s an East Asian thing. The concept that the family is more important than the individual (which I 100% disagree with). Not everyone but some do it. So, Venkatesh or Venky is another Telugu actor. In fact, he’s one of the earliest actors I’d seen on screen. When I was very young, there were exactly three Telugu movies I’d watch on a regular basis during my I’m-not-gonna-speak-Telugu-because-I-have-no-Telugu-friends phase: Manmadhudu (featuring Nagarjuna, Sonali Bendre, and Anshu Ambani), Nuvvu Leka Nenu Lenu (featuring Tarun and Aarthi Agarwal), and finally Nuvvu Naaku Nachav (featuring Venky and Aarthi Agarwal). I suppose part of the reason why I love him ’til this day is because he is one of the few actors I grew up watching from a very early age. But as much I still watch movies of all these actors and many more, part of the reason I love him is because of the diversity in emotions that he plays. He can be a softie but he’s also capable of getting super emotional and loud on screen in the same role, in the span of two to three hours. The other thing is, he’s able to portray an authentic vulnerability that some Telugu male actors are really not great at doing. Especially considering that some of his movies were taken during times when men crying over anything less than death was considered unmanly. He was okay with and capable of portraying the exact opposite. He’s also really good at being funny. He’s okay with being laughed at. He’s also one of the few older actors who has aged really, really well. Which I know because of the pictures of him that exist without make up. I mean, there are some actors which can pull off that they look great like fabulous-great but chances are they’ve got a lot of plastic surgery or a lot of make up on. But this man’s aged well. And I think part of that is he practices meditation and mindfulness and super into spirituality. In real life, this is one relaxed man. Which I also think is a very sexy quality. Oh, and he loves to play cricket! Personally. while I don’t like watching sports or playing them much myself. I do like men who like sports. Don’t question that logic. Or do, I don’t care. But I don’t have an answer if you do.	Venkatadri, Bodyguard
8	Anil Kapoor, 65 Another actor that has aged very well. Physically, and as an actor. Anil Kapoor is one actor who as much as I appreciated in his younger roles as the lead, I love for his roles as older supporting characters or roles in which he is a main lead along with some younger characters. Specifically, I loved him as Kartar Singh Bajwa in Mubarakan. He played the role very well with lots of power. It’s amazing how he manages not to overshadow some of the younger cast but doesn’t underperform either. He also managed to do a similar thing as Kamal Mehra in Dil Dhadakne Do. I also love that he’s not afraid of being a romantic character while portraying an older character / family man. There’s a whole taboo thing in India with romance and parenthood. Usually, unless a movie is specifically about an older guy trying to find love or something, it’s rare that you’ll see on-screen romance or an attempt at romance that’s decent and not meant to be negative in some way. Or at least, I’ve found it to be the case. I also really, really like him for AK vs AK, a 2020 mockumentary-like Hindi black comedy thriller. While I haven’t yet watched the film, I’m really looking forward to it. The way the film was structured is a risk. Anything non-traditional is. And considering the actors all play themselves, it could’ve very easily been mistaken for reality and many reputations could’ve been ruined. In fact, for the sake of a promotional stunt- Just see for yourself: “Anil Kapoor, Anurag Kashyap engage in nasty war of words on Twitter; here’s why“. Did you read it? At least, skim it? Do you see what I mean? Holy hell, that could’ve ended really, really badly. But just like Cruise and his stunts, this is just what some people do for the sake of integrity in the stories they’re trying to tell the world. I also love him for playing  Balbir Chaudhary, father to Sweety Chaudhary, a young Indian lesbian woman who has to find a way to come out to her conservative and (unfortunately) naturally homophobic family in Ek Ladki Ko Dekha Toh Aisa Laga. The movie was titled after a popular song from one of Anil Kapoor’s earlier movies 1942 A Love Story and his real-life daughter Sonam Kapoor plays Sweety. I could write an entire post just about this film and all the reasons why I love it. I will one day. But for now, I have to praise Anil Kapoor for doing this role because of two factors: 1) it proves that he’s pro-LGBTQ+ 2) considering his Indian roots and his age, it could’ve easily trashed his career but he risked it because it was a project he believed in because of the progressive values he believes in. For me, this is something that I’ll always recognize as a positive due to being a panromantic 21st Cent. woman myself. And I think his artistic risk mindset and progressive values amplify his sex appeal so much more than his good looks ever could. While I do believe in separating an actor into the physical, the personal, and the talent and judging them separately, this is one of those situations in which an actor checks all the boxes. He is sexy as hell, charming and beautiful, and tugs on my heart strings on and off the screen.	Kartar Singh Bajwa, Mubarakan
9	Mark Harmon, 71 I looked up a photo of him from when he was younger and he looks the same! Like, the same. I haven’t actually seen any of his work from his youth though. I know him for one show and one show only. NCIS – one of my favorite crime shows. He plays Special Agent Gibbs so well. His silent looks that scream volumes. His rare but genuine smiles. I am in love with Special Agent Leroy Jethro Gibbs. As for Harmon, don’t know much about him. Apparently, there was a situation with him bringing a dog onto the set of NCIS which bit a cast member which ultimately drove away Pauley Perrette or something. Who knows what’s true and what’s not. It’s another one of those situations in which you have to separate the person from the actor and the person from the character. I mean, I think that’s something you always have to do. There are plenty of good people that portray villains. There are plenty of excellent people that are sucky actors and vice versa. And learning to differentiate between them and judge them differently is a necessary art. As a final note about Harmon, he’s the only person on this list who I think looks better without the beard than with the beard.	Special Agent Leroy Jethro Gibbs, NCIS
10	Amitabh Bachchan, 80 He’s got one of those faces that on some mornings, I find sexy, and on some mornings, I don’t. That happens. Sometimes sexual attraction toward a person changes based on the specific circumstances under which you are experiencing them. As an actor though, he’s obviously immensely versatile, crazy talented, and extremely popular. Many know him for his role as Jai in Sholay. For me though, the highlight of his career was when he decided to portray Buddhadev Gupta, an arrogant restaurateur in London who falls for down-to-earth but no-nonsense Nina Verma played by Tabu. And, oh yeah, he’s also older than her dad in this movie which adds to the comic heights. This movie is progressive in the values it conveys toward age-gap relationships which is obviously something I, myself, am very passionate about if it wasn’t already obvious. Considering the generation Amitabh came from, the fact that he decided to do this movie speaks volumes. I also have to say, I epically love his look as the street singer at the beginning of Jhoom Barabar Jhoom which is why I picked that look for his picture.	Buddhadev Gupta, Cheeni Kum

As a final note, I have to say the following:

• Yes, I have a facial hair fetish when it comes to men. If I did a psychological deep dive, it probably has something to do with the fact that facial hair is a subliminal sign of maturity and that’s why. But just like with how I like a lot of older guys, it’s not a must-have. It’s not that I like all guys with facial hair or that I hate them without it. More so just that, more often than not, most men that I like look better with than without facial hair.
• Surprisingly, I did not use the word “fuck” as many times as I expected I would… Interesting…
• Definitely expect “Hot & Spicy: 40s Edition” to come to MML soon.